Couples Therapy in San Diego
You love each other, but something feels off
When connection starts to feel out of reach
How in the heck did you and your partner get here? It’s so hard to see eye to eye lately and it is really tough when you feel like they are a roomate and the passion is gone. One of the greatest factors in relationships is the REPAIR. I help couples get to the bottom of their struggles, help them connect and communicate on a deeper level, and help you two build the intimacy and relationship that you desire.
Are you wondering if your relationship can survive…the betrayal, the conflict or the increasing disconnection?
Maybe you are wondering if separation is the answer or if you should just hold on until the kids are older or the mortgage is paid off or you get to retirement. You may be finding yourself in constant conflict with your partner over the smallest of things or you may find yourself becoming increasingly distant from them, living more like roommates than lovers. You feel like there’s no hope for this relationship and you would be better off apart.
Whatever it is that you’re experiencing, you’re beginning to notice the impact of this in every facet of your life:
Struggling to connect with your partner
Feeling disconnected and on your own
Uncertain and confused about what to do next
Stress from your relationship impacting other areas of your life (children, work, family)
Couples therapy in San Diego can help!
It may feel impossible now, but you can transform your relationship with your partner. You can create a more connected, understanding and supportive relationship. You can learn how to have each other’s backs and create a life you both want. I can help you get there.
Couples therapy helps you do 4 things:
Understand your own and your partner’s relational history & patterns (yes, back to childhood)
Learn about caring for your nervous system and your partner’s (also applies to your children and others in your life)
Communicate differently to reduce conflict and learn to repair which increases safety and connection to meet your needs
Create a vision for what you want from your relationship
We will help you through this process, tailoring each step to your unique needs and circumstances. Our approach to couples therapy comes from a place of understanding how relationships work and what they need to flourish. You and your partner can move out of patterns that no longer serve you.
An unhappy relationship or separation/divorce doesn’t have to be your story.
We can help you get there.
Therapy for Communication
You have been fighting non-stop. You try to slow it down and say what you’re feeling and somehow it is taken the wrong way and you are left feeling alone and misunderstood. You’re honestly unsure if your relationship is going to last unless you get some guidance. It’s even gotten to the point where you both may have said some really hurtful things and are considering leaving the relationship. You’re not alone in these types of interactions. I can help you both figure out what your triggers are, find empathy and understanding for each other, and communicate your desires and concerns in a safe way where you end the conversation feeling heard and acknowledged. There is hope and communication is a learned skill. Let’s get to work.
Therapy for Parents.
Let’s face it, you really didn’t understand the depths that parenting would take a toll on your relationship. Throughout each stage there are different challenges, differences of opinion on parenting, disconnection, and the exhaustion is just too much. But you want more and just aren’t sure how to bridge the gap between you two. I help couples throughout each stage of their parenting journey. From the challenges of getting pregnant or the struggles same sex couples face getting pregnant into to pregnancy and through birth. Then into infancy, toddlerhood, childhood, teenage years, child adulthood and into the empty nest phase. I help couples become intentional about their relationship and learn to grow with each other as teammates so they are a united front. Because your goal is to be better than your parents and to give your child a model of what a healthy loving relationship looks like.
Therapy for Infidelity / Affair Recovery
That dreaded moment when you find out that your partner has been unfaithful. The trust you once had in them and in your relationship feels shattered. It seems impossible to pick up the pieces and you wonder if it will ever be the same again. This life you’ve built and the plans you’ve made feels.. gone. It feels really fucking hard and you’re angry. It doesn’t mean it has to be over though. We help couples evaluate their relationship to figure out the direction it should go. Together we can look at how this happened and what needs to be in place in order to move forward. You will learn to build trust and safety and grow your communication. It is not going to be with the snap of a fingers, know it will take time, but it is not impossible. Let’s chat about how we can help in putting the pieces back together.
Therapy for Poly Relationships
Whether you are wanting to explore what a poly relationship could look like with your partner or you are currently in a polycule and are wanting to strengthen your connection, there is space here for you. I can help you strengthen communication and understanding for each other and set boundaries that honor each individual. No topic is off limits and you deserve to be in a thriving relationship!
Therapy for Intimacy
That passion used to be real. Where the hell did it go? Is it your busy schedule? Is it since you’ve had kids? Since you’ve been stressing about finances, work, physical ailments, or caregiving? Life gets in the way, that’s pretty normal. But it takes you being intentional, right now, that is the first step to getting back into your groove. You deserve to feel close to the person you’re committed to. Let’s get you and your love back to feeling connected and close.
Frequently Asked Questions for couples therapy in San Diego
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Couples therapy provides a supportive space for partners to better understand each other, improve communication, and work through challenges together. It can help you feel more connected and build a stronger, more secure relationship.
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Couples often start therapy when they feel stuck in patterns of conflict, communication breakdowns, or emotional distance. You don’t have to wait for things to feel overwhelming. Therapy can also support growth, connection, and prevention.
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Couples therapy can help with communication challenges, conflict resolution, trust concerns, life transitions, intimacy, and rebuilding connection after difficult experiences.
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Therapy is collaborative and non-judgmental. Your therapist will work with both partners to understand your dynamic, identify patterns, and help you develop tools to communicate more effectively and feel more connected.
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Most sessions are attended together, though individual sessions may be recommended at times depending on your needs and goals.
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Therapists often use approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and other evidence-based methods that focus on strengthening emotional connection and improving communication.
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Every relationship is different. Some couples come for short-term support around a specific issue, while others continue longer to deepen their connection and build lasting change.
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Yes. Couples therapy is a private space. Your therapist will explain how confidentiality works, including how information is handled within joint and individual sessions.
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Yes. In addition to in-person sessions in San Diego, virtual couples therapy is available for clients located in California, with additional availability in Arizona and Virginia depending on therapist licensure.
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You can begin by scheduling a free 15-minute consultation. This is a chance to ask questions, share what you’re looking for, and see if it feels like the right fit for both of you.
